Mindfulness Counselling in Stoke on Trent

Mindfulness Counselling in Stoke on Trent, Staffordshire.

First of all … Mindfulness can assist us in dealing with the ‘Multiple’ demands on our time, that we experience in this modern western world. It can feel like a juggling act to do it all, fit it all in, and be it all. We can get the feeling that we are under relentless pressure, and that ‘feeling’ and the ‘thoughts’ behind those ‘feelings’ can often lead us to believe that we’re not coping very well.

Simple Mindfulness practices or exercises can help ‘busy’ people from all walks of life to feel happier, less stressed and more content and in control of their thoughts and emotions.

Mindfulness Counselling in Stoke on Trent, Staffordshire.

Given your already lengthy to-do list, you’re probably thinking, how on earth can mindfulness make me calmer …  and what is mindfulness exactly anyway?

It is perhaps easiest to think of mindfulness simply as an ability to be quiet, calm and still. In a place where you can view your ‘Inner environment’ and your ‘Outer environment’ at the same time. A place of calm observation, whilst also being able to be the observed at the same time.

Hence; When you become conscious enough to become the ‘Observer’ you are no longer at the mercy of your thoughts, or the outer world, or the outer environment. You can learn how to look ‘at’ your thoughts with ‘acceptance’ and non-judgement, rather than being controlled by them.

The Results of this Mindfulness Practice.

Consequently;  You can ‘learn’ to be still and calm inside your mind and body. You can learn to ‘respond’ to life approprately, rather than ‘reacting’ to ever changing life situations, Life is constantly changing around you, and if you are able to surf this ever shifting carpet, rather than feeling like the rug has been pulled from beneath you everytime.  This is the key to finding a true sense of peace, calm and happiness.

Furthermore; The good news is that you can be mindful at any time, and in any place. It is only a mindful breath away. The best way to get a sense of what mindfulness actually is, Is through experiencing it directly ‘Yourself’

A Short Mindfulness Exercise for you …. 

Here is a short exercise that will give you a taste of mindfulness right now.

Sit comfortably in a chair or lie down, close your eyes and take a few breaths. ‘Notice’ the breath, notice the brief pause at the end of the in breath, notice the brief pause at the end of the out breath. Also notice the temperature of the breath, notice how it’s ever so slightly warmer as you breathe out.

The emphasis is on the ‘Noticing’ … Being fully ‘Present’ as you carry out this exercise. 

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More Mindfulness Practices.

With consistent Practice; You will become increasingly aware of the physical sensations that you are directly experiencing in this moment. … (Right Now!)

Maybe you feel tension or pressure from the sheer volume of thoughts that you’re experiencing, and how you ‘Instinctively’ or ‘Habitually’ react to them. Maybe you feel an urge to try to prevent these thoughts from manifesting ?

Instead just try to simply ‘Notice’ the thoughts, rather than judging them or wishing they would go away. (Don’t Resist!)

What we Resist ….. Persists!

In Mindfulness Practice You will Learn how to acquire;  A Greater Awareness of your Thoughts and Feelings.

Also; … Becoming more aware of your environment too …

The sounds and smells around you. Learn how to “Tune” into this moment called (NOW)  

See if you can let the sounds come and go without ‘Reacting’ in anyway. Allowing the thoughts and sounds to just ebb and flow, whilst being fully aware of them.

In Conclusion …

As a result of you acquiring Mindfulness Skills …  Not only will your ‘Mind’ benefit from the experience.  Your ‘Body’ will benefit too.

Most of all if you need guidance with ‘Learning Mindfulness Skills’

Whether or not, to help you to get through your difficulties …. Or just simply to become happier in your life. Whatever the reason, call today!

Its Easier than you might think!

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Warmest Regards and many thanks for reading.

Steve Haines Counselling Services in Stoke on Trent, Staffordshire.

Stoke-on-Trent Counsellor CBT Therapy and Coaching.

Stoke on Trent Counselling and Coaching.

Stoke-on-Trent Counsellor CBT Therapist and Life Coach

 Stoke-on-Trent Counsellor.

 First of all;  Welcome to my Website. Take a look at some of the other pages on my website – I’m an Experienced Counsellor and Coach based in Stoke-on-Trent, and I’m hoping that I can help you with what you’re looking for.

Maybe take a look around the rest of the site.  If there is anything at all that you feel unsure about, especially anything to do with Counselling or Coaching. Then please don’t hesitate to call or email me to talk about your query.

I’m passionate about Counselling and Coaching and also helping the people of Stoke-on-Trent.  I am qualified in various different aspects of Counselling and Coaching which enables me to help you to the best of my ability.

 To find out more about Counselling or Coaching in Stoke on Trent, visit the site navigation Tabs above on this page.

In my work as a Stoke-on-Trent Counsellor.  I have been extremely privileged to witness many people making lasting positive changes to their lives.  Therefore; I know that our work as been fruitful.

I also measure the results in counselling, by carefully using an assessment tool.  

The NHS approved assessment tool PHQ9 and GAD7 is the tool I use. Hence; demonstrating that my counselling practice leads to reliable and measurable improvements to your well being. Most of all; This provides a lasting resolution to your problems or issues, and furthermore, confirmation that this is not just a quick fix solution.

I’m a (BACP) Registered Counsellor – CBT Therapist and Life Coach in Stoke on Trent, Staffordshire.

And a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy in Stoke-on-Trent (MBACP)

This means that I have met the strict standards required to be on the accredited register approved by the Professional Standards Authority for Health and Social Care.

Especially relevant is … The various therapies I offer are carefully and respectfully Integrated together to address a wide range of client problems and issues, and many clients find that they only require brief counselling, Sometimes as few as 3-6 sessions, and that can be enough to make significant positive changes to their lives.

For some people, and for some issues of course, the work takes longer. However; I am also happy to work with you on a more supportive, long term and open ended basis, which suits some clients better.

My aim is to help you to resolve any problems or issues that you have as quickly as is suitable for you as a unique individual.  At a pace that works best for you.

Finally and In Conclusion; 

Whatever your needs are I will do my utmost best to accommodate you.

Check out my other sites below if you’re interested in more of what influences the way in which I work, by clicking on the links below.

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Warmest regards and thank you for visiting my website.

 Stoke-on-Trent Counsellor – Steve Haines.

Counsellor in Stoke on Trent – Staffordshire

Counsellor in Stoke on Trent.

Steve Haines Counsellor in Stoke on Trent, Staffordshire. 

Counsellor in Stoke on Trent

As a Counsellor in Stoke on Trent I can say Counselling is a job that I love to do. It’s a job that I find extremely fulfilling.  It is a real privilege to Counsel someone and to see them get better.

If you are looking for a Counsellor to help you with a particular difficulty that you’re going through at the moment, then please have a good look around the site.

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 How Can Counselling can help you to deal with challenges.

When certain things are happening in our lives that aren’t particularly pleasant, our thoughts tend naturally to become more negative and repetitive. Unfortunately this is a human frailty that we all share as human beings. 

Counselling can help you to explore these troublesome thoughts and emotions.

Counsellor – Integrating Counselling and Coaching in Stoke on Trent?

Most of us go through difficult times in our lives when we could do with some help and talking to a skilled counsellor can help you to gain new perspectives, to understand yourself better. So that you have the tools to maintain and support yourself now, and in the future.

Sometimes we just need a space where we can offload to someone who is impartial, understanding, supportive and non judgmental.

My aim as a counsellor is to help you to feel better about yourself and to empower you to feel more in control of yourself and your life.

Counselling  and Coaching in Stoke on Trent.

(The marriage between the two)

You may be in the midst of life changes or you may just be feeling stuck or struggling to find time and space to do what you wish in your life?  You may not even know what you want to achieve or where to go from where you’re at?

Counselling and Life coaching can help you to move forward and enhance the satisfaction and quality of your life. It can start with just a few easy steps!

Counselling and Life Coaching can support you with the following issues.

*Finding your direction and a renewed purpose in life..
*Enhancing your energy and motivation
*Reducing your stress levels.
*Building your self esteem.
*Achieving a satisfactory work/life balance.
*Liberating yourself from negative beliefs and attitudes.

Dealing with stress, anxiety, trauma, loss, phobias, relationships, fears etc..

The advantage of being an experienced counsellor as well as a coach is that when deeper issues arise in a coaching session, the problems can be addressed fully and resolved there and then. These deeper underlying issues may be blocking you from achieving your sense of happiness, your purpose or your goals in life. 

When these underlying issues are addressed the process brings about more long term, longer lasting and more effective change to enable you to feel as happy and contented as possible.

Help me to help you by contacting me today.

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Warmest Regards and many thanks for reading 

Steve Haines Counsellor  and Coaching Services in Stoke on Trent 

CBT Counselling in Stoke on trent, Staffordshire

CBT Counselling Stoke on Trent


CBT or Cognitive Behaviour Therapy Counselling in Stoke on Trent.

What is CBT? 

CBT or Cognitive Behaviour Therapy  What is it? 

The C in CBT is ‘Cognition’ Which means ‘Thinking’ and  the B is the ‘Behaviour’ or what we do as a result of what we think about.

Steve Haines CBT Counselling

Finally the T is ‘Therapy’ Which is another term for Counselling.

CBT Therapy is a very focused, structured type of counselling, which focuses very much on the ‘Here and Now’ or the ‘Present Moment’

The emphasis tends to be on the ‘thoughts’ and the ‘behaviour’ in equal measures. The good news is … it works!  It’s tried and tested!

Research shows that CBT is the most effective way of turning problems around, and quickly.

Person Centred Counselling by contrast is more of a casual style of approach, and you can talk about whatever you wish to talk about, and that is fine for some people. If that is what you want, I’m a qualified Person Centred Counsellor too. However; We have to acknowledge that you can spend the counselling hour talking about whatever you wish in counselling, and you are of course in charge of what you share and when, and how.

The CBT approach is structured so that you become focused also, and you will want to make good headway regarding your own problem as much as I do.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy Counselling in Stoke on Trent.

I can help you to reach a greater level of clarity, and relatively quickly too. Regardless of your issues, whether they are Low Self Esteem, a Relationship Issue, Abuse, Anger, Trauma, Loss …. In fact anything that you’re unhappy about, we can focus on together, in a structured, life altering way to help you move forward with your life once again. 

Counselling Therapy can help you to rediscover the hidden happy you. 

Finally; you will wish to reach the end of your problems quickly.  Hence, as easily as possible. Or certainly at a pace that suits you to work at. You set the pace.

I comply with ‘your’ wishes, so that you can become happy again, but swiftly, and then you can focus your time on enjoying your life once again.

CBT gives you structure and focus which in turn, teaches you how to become your own therapist. So then ultimately – you won’t need me.

Learn how to become your own CBT Therapist in several easy steps by calling me today.


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Warmest Regards and thanks for reading.

Steve Haines. (CBT) Cognitive Behavioural Therapist – Counsellor and Life Coach in Stoke on Trent.


Life Coaching and CBT Counselling in Stoke on Trent

Life Coaching in Stoke on Trent

LIFE COACHING in Stoke on Trent.

First of all;  What is Life Coaching?


Life Coaching stoke on trent

Personal Life Coaching is an interaction or a conversation between one person and another.  (The Coach) and the recipient or (Coachee). The relationship is primarily, one of a ‘helping’ nature. One of a motivational kind.  One which may focus on, business, music, relationships, personal development? In fact, on ‘any area’ of which the recipient would like help or inspiration with?

Joining up the pieces in Life Coaching.

Basically in Life Coaching, the coach possesses knowledge of how to help the other find their ‘own’ answers to their own dilemmas. Most of all, through inspiration, encouragement and understanding. If the coach truly hears the coachees difficulties and then helps determine why the person feels that they cannot succeed in whatever area of their life they need help with. The aim being, focusing on ‘them’ and helping them attain ‘their’ goals, whatever that goal means for them?

Creating Change?

The coachee may be wishing to change an aspect of their life that they are unhappy with. They may wish to change this area of their life but not know how? Or they may just not know how to get started? The coachee might just wish to get ‘better’ at what they already do well?

Where Does Life Coaching come from?

Although life coaching is fastly becoming recognised as being useful in the world of business and personal development. Most people might reference the world of sport if they were asked what life coaching actually was?
Athletes, Footballers and the like have been using coaches for the purpose of Life Coaching for decades to great advantage. The skills of the coach do not have to be equal to that of the coachee.
The coach possesses an entirely different set of skills, related to observation and subsequent ‘feedback’ based on observing the coachees strengths and weaknesses.

Skill Sets required.

A world class footballer does not need a world class footballer to teach them ‘their’ style of play. A coach focuses on helping the coachee to recognise how they may improve their own game, their own energy, their own motivation and working closely alongside them to help them to draw upon their own unique inner resources.

The word ‘coach’ is derived from a French word ‘coche’ originating in Hungary and defined by the purpose being to ‘teach’ or ‘instruct’ ‘motivate’ or ‘inspire’
Also a ‘coach’ … a railway coach, or a bus, are all vehicles used to transport people from one place to another, ultimately helping a person get from point A to point B.
The ‘coach’ is the ‘vehicle’ used for this purpose of transformation or transportation.

What is executive coaching?

How can an executive benefit from a life coaching experience?

Maybe they can acquire skills to enable them to lead by ‘example.’  Which may then; ‘Influence’ the rest of their entire workforce to follow their own example.
In other words by helping the people at the ‘top’ …

We ‘influence’ everyone else in the company to do well at their own individual job. Consequently; the whole company benefits and as a result they may improve their overall standards of workmanship, right across the board in that company.

Coaches can be individually and uniquely trained to operate internally within the company, so that the coach has a greater understanding of that particular business. The drawback to this form of ‘Internal Operational Style of Coaching’ is the ‘power dynamics’ Chief executives

‘external’ coaches are often used to apply their skills within a company for a fixed time period until the work has been carried out successfully.

Coaching can also aid junior executives to make leaps up into more senior positions in the company and they can benefit by becoming more able to apply themselves and to then thrive in their new exciting roles rather than being fearful of the added responsibilities that the new role may first bring.

Why do people choose life coaching?

I think it’s fair to say that the most people, rightly or wrongly wish to achieve some level of ‘success’ at what they do, whether that’s, a sport, a career or a need to make some very important life decisions, to do with their health, relationship, or their life in general.
Some of us come from a place of; “I can and I will” and others from a place of
“I don’t think I can.” That’s what Life Coaching can help you with!

Coaching can help both sets of people to define, just, exactly what’s holding them back from making decisions and to inspire them to take action, prioritising their highest potential, and better still – how to focus on what they ‘do want’ rather than what they don’t want and they may benefit from collaborative direction or suggestion, a new set of trained eyes to help them see from an unclouded lense, this can be useful to most people, so that they may form some sort of clearer evaluation for themselves.
Coaching is predominantly ‘solution-focused’ and ‘motivational’ which helps us to improve or enhance our general performance in whatever areas we are seeking help with.

Counselling or Coaching?

Conversely; Counselling is more problem-focused, focusing on trauma, or mental health difficulties. Both having their own merits and both achieve their own desirable results. If it’s solutions or motivation the person wants help with then they might choose life coaching. If it’s problems they’re seeking help with, they may choose counselling?

When is Life Coaching not the answer?

As mentioned briefly, and touched upon in my answer above. There is a time for focusing on solutions and motivation and a time for focusing on problems.  A need to get to the bottom of more serious problems – such as mental health issues. Maybe phobias, addictions, personality disorders, or perhaps, post traumatic stress disorder could be apparent. Maybe as a result of an accident or life trauma situation, to name just a few.

These conditions must be dealt with by a trained health professional, specialising in that particular area, appropriate to that specific condition.
Although coaches act from their own experience and from their own acquired intuition they must be mindful of when to refer a client to a more suitable service.
Referral is important in every service including, being a Life Coach.

I myself am a counsellor and Coach, but i’m acutely aware of my own limitations and there are times when i need to refer to someone more experienced in ’A’ particular area.
The order of the day is “If in doubt seek guidance”

What is Collaborative Life Coaching?

Collaborative means … To ‘collaborate’ with someone else. In other words, make
A ‘joint decision’ Which is made with an awareness of the others autonomy.
We cannot tell a person or coachee (what to do!)

Respect and humility play a huge part in making a ‘collaborative’ decision when formulating a strategic plan of action. The coachee must wish to participate in the plan, if he or she doesn’t – there will be no action or movement and also a lack of trust and respect for the coach could happen, trust is created by being honest and acting with integrity. Also most people do not generally respond well to being told what to do!

Outcome of Life Coaching 

In Life Coaching a coach uses his own expertise in ‘enabling’ the coachee to embark on a mutually agreed, guided discovery. Rather than them finding themselves in unknown territory.

Honesty and openness between coach and coachee is imperative for the coachee to approve of the work and to embrace the challenge. Because they ‘want to’ rather than being told they ‘Have To!’ …

What is the difference between directive and nondirective conversation in Life Coaching?

Directive or Non-Directive?

Directive conversation is a conversation which is primarily focused on instructing a person on ‘what to do’ with their lives by suggesting or advising, which of course is your ‘own’ view of ‘what is right for them’ as you see it. Even when a coachee comes along, specifically asking for advice, they rarely respond well to being told ‘what to do’ and ultimately they will do what they want to do anyway, with or without your approval.

As a result; … This is the fundamental challenge in Life Coaching. Understanding how a person’s autonomy works in reality. Understanding this principle, helps us to understand the true meaning of collaboration. A successful Life Coach embodies this deeper understanding so that we can respect the other’s views, with an awareness that the coachee is already managing their own life without you onboard as a helper. We are in the privileged position of being asked for help by another … the coachee.

They have put their trust in us to act in a way that’s best for them, and not what suits us to suggest is right for them.

In Conclusion; …

Non-directive conversation is about being aware of just .. ‘Offering’ suggestions. Almost as a ‘last resort’ … And only if the coachee cannot find their own answer to their own dilemmas. Rather than coaching in a directive way. Otherwise you are likely to find the solution for them. Rather than the coachee being able to find their own solution. Furthermore; It is through non directive conversation, that the coachee discovers how to discover their own ‘Inner Coach’ so that they may pull their own ideas from within. This is also vital from a future maintenance point of view.  And Finally; they must be guided towards their own discoveries.

This is just a little bit about Life Coaching from me to you

Steve Haines Counselling and Life Coaching in Stoke on Trent

Many Thanks for reading.

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Warmest Regards

Steve Haines Counsellor CBT Therapist and coach in Stoke on Trent